Is it love or lust?

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“He loves me, he loves me not…” I said giggling as a child while pulling off a single daisy petal at a time. But did he really love me?

As I grew older and developed “romantic” feelings for the opposite sex, I had to consider if a guy really loved me or was it just lust. Has that question ever crossed your mind as someone of the opposite sex tried to capture your attention? Are you aware of those two strong emotions that can be tricky to decipher if you are not careful — love and lust?  How can you know the difference? Here are a few crucial hints it’s lust:

  • He has greater interest in your physical body than in your heart. 
  • He makes fast advancements to lure you to the bedroom through conversation or gestures.
  • He shows you no r-e-s-p-e-c-t.
  • He has minimal interest in your well-being (emotional or physical).
  • He refuses to include you in his plans, and offers limited dating opportunities.
  • He is not anxious to introduce you to or have you associate with significant people in his life.
  • He’s secretive and keeps you in the dark regarding his life.
  • He attempts to control you.

Love is NOT seen in the above behaviors. Rather, love is kind, caring, and unselfish. A healthy romantic relationships looks more like, “He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he lusts me not.”

Don’t believe it when he says, “If you love me, you will…” That’s PURE LUST! “…the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord…Flee sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:13-18).

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