Sex vs. Intimacy Part 1

Have you ever heard the saying, fine wine takes time? Well, intimacy is like the fine wine of any relationship. Even when we fall in love at first sight, we hope the person will become our closest confidant, our best friend and the lover of our life. We want someone to share something with us that no one else shares. We want to know them and be known without shame.

Our desire for intimacy has become another casualty in this microwave society. We want to put in an order at the drive thru for a meal that takes 5 hours to prepare but we want it ready by the time we get to the window. We want everything quick, including intimacy. But true intimacy takes longer than a minute.

Some people use sex to create intimacy. But sex is like cheap wine. When they come down from their high, they have blood shot eyes from crying and a big headache from dealing with the issues they previously ignored. The closeness they grasped for slips through their fingers like grains of sand.

So why the constant pursuit of intimacy? Genesis 2:25 says, “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” We want intimacy so badly because God put that desire within us. But when the man and woman messed up their relationship with God, they also messed up their relationship with each other. How then do we achieve intimacy in a broken world? Well, that’s a blog for another day–tomorrow!