Sex vs. Intimacy Part 2
The other day as I stood in line at the grocery store my eyes perused the magazine covers as usual. One cover, in particular, caught my eye. It had a picture of Will and Jada and the caption said something about the celebrity couple splitting up. In fact most of the magazines advertised stories about the love lives of celebrities. Why do we care?
Celebrities entertain us on and off the screen. And maybe unconsciously we use these most visible relationships as models for our own lives. We want exciting love lives like theirs. When they advertise sex as the spice of life, we buy it. But if you want a serious relationship don’t believe the hype.
Sex only creates a superficial commitment to a relationship. Ironically, opening our hearts instead, gives another person access to the private us creating more of a commitment to trust. Developing intimacy in a relationship and being transparent takes time.
Why wait until marriage? We get to know the deeper person during the wait for sex. Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” God sacrificed Himself for us to demonstrate His love. Sex can impede the process of getting to know if a man has the character to love us. Waiting can filter out men who only want us for our sex and can show us the one who really loves us. He’ll wait. The joy of intimacy is worth the wait.