Soulmate: The Discussion

A while ago, I invited a group of single African American women over to watch the Soulmate video. Louis facilitated our discussion so that we could have a male point of view. The one thing I remember is Cheryl sharing what we needed to find out about men while we are getting to know them. She said that too often women neglect to collect important information that will contribute to the success of a relationship.

While the video is about a group of women struggling with singleness, this group of women had no intentions of conceding to singleness as their fate. We wanted to know, how do we get it right? I walked away feeling empowered to conduct the all-necessary interview.

Exactly how does this “interview” work? First I thought I’d come up with a list of questions. I would ask questions like, Can you tell me about yourself? What do you expect from me? What can I expect from you? I’d want to know how much I was going to have to compromise for the sake of this relationship in areas like finances, family, etc?

Guess what, God is okay with us asking the same questions to Him because He wants to be in relationship with us. Ask away!

Come now, and let us reason together,” Says the LORD, “ Though your sins are as scarlet, They will be as white as snow; Though they are red like crimson, They will be like wool. Isaiah 1:18

A goodbook for relationship “interview” questions: Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman-It’s the type of information Gary himself wished he had before he got married. By understanding and balancing the five key aspects of life, dating couples can experience a healthy dating relationship. Excerpt from http://www.garychapman.org/