Got Standards?
Like I said, it’s hard to get a handle on this book. Chapter nine of Act Like A Woman Think Like A Man brings up an interesting concept. In his honest and subtly problematic account of the evolution of his dating relationship with his wife Marjorie, Harvey gets back to the subject of standards. This set however includes the standards by which we define ourselves.
We each need to have an honest discussion with ourselves about our unique idiosyncrasies. We may need to ask somebody, even though we’re “normal.” Normal to us may not be normal to everybody else. We can learn a lot about ourselves from others.
But beyond the surface stuff a self exists who can mystify even the more self aware of us. She can linger under the surface but never manifest herself because we just don’t know how to pull her off. Or she can be dormant and awaiting the great awakening.
Sometimes in the Bible when God comes into someone’s life He changes his or her name. The change often reflects a transformation or a promise. When we come into a relationship with God we become new. (Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. 1 Corinthians 5:17). The self inside becomes free and who emerges from within possesses a better understanding of “ME.” She better understands the desires of her heart and thus better understands her requirements for a mate.